‘I was never single for long – an act of not really loving myself’: 3 Time Divorcee Jennifer Lopez Revealed She Left Previous Husbands Because She Was Abused
Jennifer Lopez who recently tied the knot with Ben Affleck, once in the past shared her experience of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. She blamed it on a lack of self-love in her book True Love (2014). JLo admitted to her late realization of relationship dynamics. She also shared in the book how she was also responsible for staying in an unhealthy and mentally abusive relationship.
Jennifer Lopez on Lack of Self-love and Abusive Relationships.
In 2014 Jennifer Lopez shared quite a lot about her relationships in her book True Love. She admitted a lack of self-love which led to her wanting to be in a romantic relationship constantly. The If You Had My Love hit-maker had a hard time being alone by herself for a long time, she said, “I was never single for long, and whenever I got together with someone, that was it—we were instantly inseparable, monogamous, together for the long haul,” wrote Lopez.
“I never thought, ‘Well, let me take some time to see if I really want to be with this person. Do I even like him? Is he right for me?’ I didn’t see this behavior for what it was—an act of not really loving myself.”
JLo also shared in the book that she experienced verbal and emotional abuse while in a relationship. She explained that although the type of abuse she received did not have any physical scars however it still ran as deep. She added,
“Maybe it’s a push, a shove, or a nasty word that stays with you. The scars might not be visible, but they run just as deep.”
Lopez admitted in the book that it took her a long time to learn she was also responsible for dragging an unhealthy relationship. She wrote,
“Because every day that you don’t walk out that door, every day you accept things in your partner and in yourself, is a day that you’re saying it’s OK.”
It’s taken the Dance Again singer a long while but she has learned a lot about self-love since then.
JLo shared how She Came to Learn Self-love!
After realizing her lack of self-love, she was constantly looking for a romantic relationship.
“Through putting the show together, I realized that what I was working through wasn’t about any one relationship, issue, or person. It was about anything in my life that I wasn’t OK with,”
She added,
“Anything I wanted to change. And I was getting to a point where I understood that that change had to happen within me.”
The Maid in Manhattan actress married her former fiancé Ben Affleck in July this year, in a Las Vegas chapel. The couple redid their vows a month later in a lavish three-day celebration in the presence of their friends and family in Affleck’s Georgia estate.
Source: Cheatsheet.com
